Plus-size blogger Cheyenne poses topless as she reveals what it’s REALLY like for bigger ladies in the bedroom

 Cheyenne, from San Antonio, Texas, regularly shares nude or nearly-naked selfies on Instagram in an effort to encourage other women to be body positive.

If you’re fat, you’re typically denied sexuality altogether or it’s forced on you in the form of a fetish. People assume you have sex with a shirt on and the lights off, which is true for some of us. I was so afraid of what I would look like to someone performing cunnilingus, I wouldn’t engage in it. We contort our bodies, hide under covers, or refuse positions because God forbid our partner see we have a belly. Here’s the thing. We aren’t fooling anyone. Our partners know what we look like, and they want to have sex with us. Not in spite of our looks, but because our appearance is attractive! Embracing nudity helped me understand this. By taking selfies, lounging, and sleeping completely nude, I grew comfortable enough to share my nakedness with others. Your soft belly, jiggly hips, dimpled thighs are beautiful and sexy. That muffin top you once hid? It should be unleashed in all its glory during sex! Anyone who is disrespectful of that doesn’t deserve sex with you. Don’t waste yourself on someone who doesn’t honor your body the way it deserves. There are plenty of people who would love to worship your body and enjoy every inch of you! We all worry about not being skilled or flexible enough, but sex for anyone comes with its challenges. Not all positions work, and that’s okay! There are always alternatives. Just do a quick google search, and try out some new stuff. Also, firm pillows and lubricant can be quite helpful 😉 For a comprehensive guide, read “Big Big Love Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them)” Sex can resurrect every insecurity we have, but it doesn’t have to. By openly discussing our needs, embracing our naked bodies, and choosing the right partner, we’re enabling ourselves to finally have fun, satisfying sex. Our bodies have amazing capabilities to give and receive pleasure, and no matter what your fat content is, you deserve to enjoy that pleasure. So, whether you’re a svelte tigress or a voluptuous vixen, you are allowed to have all the unapologetic, unbridled sex you want! How are you taking back your sexuality? What works for you and what advice can you offer? 💭

A post shared by Cheyenne (@goofy_ginger) on Apr 19, 2017 at 1:00pm PDT

In one of her recent posts, Cheyenne smashed taboos by discussing her bedroom habits.
The redhead, whose handle is @Goofy_Ginger, explained how plus-size women have to deal with being “denied sexuality altogether” or being fetishised for their size.
“People assume you have sex with a shirt on and the lights off, which is true for some of us,” she wrote.


“I was so afraid of what I would look like to someone performing cunnilingus, I wouldn’t engage in it.
“We contort our bodies, hide under covers, or refuse positions because God forbid our partner see we have a belly.”
Cheyenne explained sexual partners of these women know exactly how they look and still want to go to bed with them.
Cheyenne shares dozens of photographs of herself in the buff online

A few weeks ago, I realized my bum no longer fits in regular panties. With my belly and waist to hips and bum ratio, there’s just none that fit comfortably. So, this prompted me to sift through all my clothes, and disappointingly, I found most of my clothes from a year ago, don’t fit any more. I looked in the mirror, and instead of thinking, “Look how saggy your arms are now. Look how pouchy your belly has gotten. Look at your hair thinning.” I thought, “Look how much brighter your eyes are now. Look at how wide your smile is. Look how much stronger your body has become. Look at you still standing after all the challenges you’ve faced and obstacles you’ve overcome!” We’ve all been taught that beauty is pain. Well, I’m here to tell you, it’s not! Beauty is confidence and comfort and happiness. Beauty is whatever makes you FEEL good! Why waste time fretting over clothes that don’t fit, when you could donate those, and go get yourself some swanky new outfits? If you don’t feel like painting your face, then don’t do it! Makeup is totally awesome and fun, but you aren’t required to wear it every time you leave the house. Don’t have a toned tummy, but you want to wear a body con dress? Go ahead! Nothing about your body is shameful, and you deserve to celebrate it in whatever clothing makes you feel sexy. Have a flat booty, but you want to wear leggings? Strut your stuff, baby! You don’t have to do a million squats just to fit in. You are perfectly beautiful and worthy exactly as you are right now! I am no longer worried about buying jeans in a size 20 rather than a 12. Because size is arbitrary. That little number means absolutely nothing. I am not the number on my clothes or the number on the scale. I am beautifully, unapologetically me. (Lingerie set by @adoreme)

A post shared by Cheyenne (@goofy_ginger) on Mar 1, 2017 at 12:03pm PST

Recent pictures show her laughing near a wood while wearing a nude bra, posing topless for a mirror selfie and flashing her bum in a black thong.
She continued: “That muffin top you once hid? It should be unleashed in all its glory during sex!
“Anyone who is disrespectful of that doesn’t deserve sex with you.”

I see a lot of people talking about loving your body no matter how it looks, but what about loving it despite how it feels? Loving your body, when it feels like it doesn’t love you back? Loving your body when it prevents you from going to work, socializing, going to school, or even just walking? Loving your body when it’s always needing surgery or leaving you exhausted from constant pain and discomfort? It’s hard to love your body, when it holds you back from doing what you want. You don’t just hate how it looks but how it functions. It’s okay to be upset about your illness, but try to remember you didn’t choose this. Just as we should forgive our souls for the mistakes we’ve made, we should forgive our bodies. They carry us through this life, and it’s not their fault we’re sick. Instead of seeing treatment as fixing something that’s broken, try seeing it as nurturing your body by helping it heal. Listen to your body’s needs. Activities, food, people, all of it should be tailored to what’s best for your mind and body. Even self care should be specific to you. It’s not always getting a manicure or buying a new dress. Sometimes it’s more utilitarian. For instance, I’ve been too nauseated to eat lately, so I bought a Nutribullet. Now, I can still nourish my body without making myself sicker. For you it might be getting a service dog, a new recliner, or a scented heating pad. Self care is an investment, and it’s worth it to make your life easier. Your body is not the enemy, and it hasn’t failed you. Your body is fighting FOR you (yes, even with autoimmune diseases). Your internal monologue matters. When you damn your body for being sick, you’re perpetuating a pattern of negative thinking. Every time you start hating your body, redirect that focus to one of the wonderful things it’s doing for you. Gratitude is one of the first steps to self love. Give thanks for each little gift. Maybe you can taste your food today or you were able to breathe deeply. No matter how small it is, these are all victories that should be celebrated. When we don’t have health, it’s easy to feel like we have nothing, but we do. Outfit: @bigbottombehavior use code GOOFYGINGER for 20% off

A post shared by Cheyenne (@goofy_ginger) on Apr 25, 2017 at 12:03pm PDT

Cheyenne advised women to not worry about being “skilled or flexible” as sex is different for everyone.
“Not all positions work, and that’s okay!” she said.
“There are always alternatives. Just do a quick google search, and try out some new stuff. Also, firm pillows and lubricant can be quite helpful .

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